While everyone eagerly invites each other to go shopping to welcome Tet, play Tet … many people feel “sad for no reason”, even “hate” every time Tet comes, just hope everything will return to the way it was. Why?
Researchers call it “pre- and post-holiday depression” . It can happen to anyone, anywhere, whether it is someone with a billion dong or a person with only a few pennies.
This syndrome was first mentioned by researchers in 1985 in the New York Times. As described, it is an emotional state that resembles “boring”, “unreasonable sadness”. Is it possible that the difference with normal days is just that the streets are more crowded, there are more shopping noises and the offices are more “absent for a reason” .
Some people even feel that the more they try to adapt to the holiday atmosphere, the more sad they feel, and just want to “stay at home and sleep for the rest of the day”, hoping to quickly pass the holiday to go to work as usual.
Hatred for Tet can be a symptom of depression before and during the holidays.
There are many reasons leading to this state, depending on the feelings and life circumstances of each individual.
There are hundreds of things to worry about during Tet, which are gifts for both sides of the family; which is money to buy cake; money to buy pork; The money is expected to be spent in January, hundreds of things to worry about while the Tet bonus is small. That’s why my heart felt unhappy, so I hated Tet: I don’t eat much but I buy a lot. If you can’t have it, you can’t have it.
Financial stress causes many of us to fall into depression and sadness before every holiday.
Another reason why so many people suffer from holiday sadness is exhaustion. Think about it, is there a boss who reminds you to “Leave that job next year” or just reminds you to “do your best before Tet”, even asking for overtime to compensate for the amount of product during the holidays.
In the days approaching Tet, 24 hours divided by billions of things, just trying to complete the workload; just busy shopping and decorating the house; I worry about a place to send my children because school leaves early but parents have not been able to take a break… Everything makes us feel exhausted, like falling into a vortex, the body is tired just want to sleep and hope to pass the New Year quickly.
Many people say to themselves many times not to, but it is always inevitable to compare themselves with others both in real life and on social networks. A friend bragged on Facebook that this New Year has a new car to go out, a colleague showed her husband giving her a Tet gift that was a trip to Europe, a college friend who received a hundred million New Year bonus from the company… also made someone feel good about themselves. bad, not equal to others and not happy when Tet is near.
The holidays are very different now. One can sit at the office through a shopping site to order home delivery of any item. The Internet is full of all-inclusive Tet shopping services, from banh chung, spring rolls, jam cakes, new clothes, to decorative flowers or New Year’s Eve offerings. Children, brothers and sisters are all busy until 29.30, the gathering pot of banh chung is so sparse.
People also send each other New Year’s greetings and greetings over the phone, instead of going to each other’s houses as before. This disconnect makes many people feel lonely, without sharing, so Tet is no longer fun.
For those who have a lot of money, they will not worry about money for Tet, but because everything is there, it is enough, weekdays and Tet holidays are not different, so it is not much fun.
Children are happy to be absent from school, adults do not see any difference, maybe just shop more than usual.
Researchers believe that this emotional state will end at the end of the Tet holiday, when the rhythm of life returns to normal, so there is nothing to worry about.
If we are in a state of “pre-Tet depression” , we can find a way to overcome it by changing our shopping habits, finding ways to connect with friends, and dividing the workload for others if possible. .