Why do people have a habit of getting back with their ex even though they hurt them? The answer is not simple, there are many reasons leading to that “traumatic decision”.
Sometimes we decide to give our ex a second chance, hoping things will be different this time. Maybe because we feel lonely, we intentionally ignore negative emotions, or people simply become blind and irrational in love.
Shelby Sells is a psychologist, an expert in the study of emotional relationships. On Bright Side, she said there are many reasons why we decide to get back with our ex. Most of these decisions are influenced by the human subconscious.
Is it that what is already familiar is often easier to find?
Having said that, getting back with an ex is the easiest thing to do. Because, they understand your habits or even your mistakes, know what food or drink you love. Furthermore, is it that what is already familiar is often easier to find?
Sells says: “We’re often used to the pain the other person causes us. So there’s not much of a shock or a scary thing ahead of us. We accept ourselves as being hurt. hurt because I’m used to it.”
Breaking up with someone is not easy. Suddenly, you lose someone who is always by your side to share sweets. And then you realize you’re all alone. You will wonder why you broke up, remember all the happy memories you two had, deny the bad things and forget why you broke up.
Shelby also added that people often dread the prospect of being alone or starting a new relationship . So they think it’s better to get back with the person who hurt them than to be alone.
Breakups always make people miserable and bring a tragic atmosphere. Those echoes often stay for a long time until we forget the old person. Or worse, when we decide to end that suffering by going back to that person if they accept.
Experts say that when people have had some time and space away from their ex, they will start to remember the good memories and reject the bad ones. According to her, subconsciously, we often invisibly erase negative memories to protect ourselves from repeating the heartache.
We often give our ex a second chance and believe that they will change their bad behavior.
The saying “when loving people are often blind” is not wrong. Sometimes we forget our values and have vain hopes that the person will change for a better future.
We often give our ex a second chance and believe that they will change their bad behavior. Although we know deep down that it’s very unlikely, at this point emotions will often triumph over reason. In fact, people often find it difficult to change their nature.
Have you ever been in a toxic relationship? Do you think the person who hurt you once deserves a second chance and they can change for you?